Coping with the Holidays

The holidays can bring up many feelings and emotions, both pleasant and challenging. The team at Roger Neilson House encourages you to take gentle and compassionate care of yourselves over the coming weeks.

  1. If you would like strategies or resources to help you cope with the holidays, please click on this link: Coping with holidays for parents
  2. If you would like strategies or resources to help you cope with grief during the holidays, please click on this link: Coping with grief during the Holidays for parents

Additional Support:

Please reach out to your Roger Neilson House Social Worker to book support during business hours. For support for siblings, please contact Recreation Therapy.

If ever you are having challenging thoughts, or feeling overwhelmed, please access the following supports in the Ottawa and Gatineau area:

Kids Help Phone 1-800-668-6868 Get support with these mental health resources – Kids Help Phone

Youth & parents can contact the Youth Services Bureau (YSB) Crisis Line: 613-260-2360

24/7 Crisis Line & Online Crisis Chat – Youth Services Jeunesse (

Resources and Crisis lines in the Ottawa & Gatineau area: Resources and crisis lines | CMHA Ottawa

Distress Centre of Ottawa and Region | 613-238-3311 ( for 24/7 immediate crisis support
Accueil › Tel-Aide Outaouais ( offers French-language mental health telephone support. Ottawa residents can call 613-741-6433 and Gatineau residents can contact 819-775-3223.

Web Resources

Sibling Bereavement Video Series

Click here to view the full video series

Education Resources


Books and Videos


  • Aarvy Aardvark Finds Hope, O’Toole D., Celo Press, 1988
  • The Happy Funeral, Bunting E., Harper and Row, 1982
  • I Miss You- A First Look at Death, Thomas Pat
  • The Kissing Hand, Penn Audrey, Child and Family Press, ISBN 0-87868-585-5
  • Lifetimes, Mellonie B., Ingpen R., Paper Tiger, 1993,


  • Adieu, Veia!  – Antoine Schneider, 1998
  • Annie and the Old One – Patricia Miles Martin, Atlantic-Little, Brown, 1971
  • Au revoir, Camille! – Sylvie Desrosiers, Editions de la Courte Échelle, 2000
  • Ben’s Flying Flowers –  Inger M. Maier, 2004
  • Beyond the Ridge – Paul Gobie, Aladdin Paperbacks, 1993
  • Boule de Rêve – Lise Thouin, Leucan, 1993
  • Don’t Despair on Thursdays – Adolph Moser, Landmark Editions, 1996
  • The Fall of Freddie the Leaf – Leo Buscaglia, Publishers Holt, Rinehard and Winston 1983
  • Gentle Willow: A Story for Children About Dying – Joyce C. Mills, Magination Press, 1993, ISBN 0-945354-53-3
  • The Healing Book: Facing the Death, and Celebrating the Life of Someone You Love – Ellen Sabin, 2006
  • It Must Hurt a Lot: A Book About Death and Learning and Growing – Doris Stanford, Multnomah Press, 1986
  • Kolie and the Funeral – Kicker R., Thanos Institute, 1988
  • The Remembering Box – Eth Clifford, Houghton, Mifflin, 1992
  • There Is A Rainbow Behind Every Dark Cloud – Gerald G. Jampolsky ISBN 0-89087-253-8, 1978
  • Thumpy’s Story: A Story of Love and Grief Shared by Thumpy the Bunny – Gerald G. Jampolsky, 1995
  • Sad Isn’t Bad – A Good-Grief Guidebook for Kids Dealing with Loss – Michaelene Mundy, 1998
  • Someone Came Before You – Pat Schwiebert, 2007
  • Something Happened: A Book for Children and Parents who have Experienced Pregnancy Loss – Cathy Blanford, 2008
  • Someone Special Died- Joan Singleton Prestine, Fearon Teacher Aids, 1993, ISBN 0-86653-9298
  • Straight from the Siblings: Another Look at the Rainbow – Gloria Murray ISBN 0-89087-341-0
  • Water Bugs and Dragonflies: Explaining Death to Young Children – Doris Stickney, 2004


  • Fire In My Heart, Ice In My Veins – Trainsman, ES, Centering corp. 1992
  • Straight Talk about death – Grollman, E., Beacon Press, 1993
  • Zebra and other Stories. –  Potok, Knopf. 1998


  • After The Darkest Hour, The Sun Will Shine Again –  Mehren, Elizabeth, Fireside, 1997
  • A Child Dies – Arnold, Joan Hagan, Charles Press, 1994
  • The Deepening Shade – Barbara Sourkes, 1982
  • Empty Cradle, Broken Heart: Surviving the Death of Your Baby – Deborah L Davis, Phd, 1991
  • Final Gifts – Callanan Maggie & Kelley Patricia, 1992
  • Healing Your Grieving Heart After Stillbirth – Alan Wolfelt, 2013
  • The Hospice Movement: A Better Way of Caring for the Dying – Sandol Stoddart, 1992
  • I’m Here to Help – Ray Catherine, 1995
  • In the Light of Dying, the Journals of a Hospice Volunteer – Taylor Joan Leslie, 1993
  • I Don’t Know What to Say – Robert Buckman, 1992
  • L’insoutenable absence: comment peut-on survivre à la mort de son enfant – Ryan, Regina Sara. Les Editions de l’Homme, 1995
  • Lorsque la vie éclate: l’impact de la mort d’un enfant sur la famille –  De Montigny, Francine et Beaudet Line. Editions du renouveau Pédagogique, 1997
  • Menya: An End of Life Story –  Wolfe Morris, 2003 
  • La Mort, Sanders, Pete. Editions École Active 2000
  • La Mort de votre enfant: dilemmes – Lee, Sheila Script. Pub. 1995
  • Parents en deuil, Schiff, Harriet Sarnoff – Editions Robert Laffont, 1984
  • Questions and Answers on Death and Dying – Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, 1997
  • Si on parlait de la mort. Dolto-Tolitch, Catherine, Gallimard 1999
  • Talking About Death – Grollman E., Beacon Press, 1991
  • Tuesdays with Morrie – Alborn, Mitch, 1997 
  • Twelve Weeks in spring – Calwood June, 1986
  • Understanding Your Grief: Ten Essential Touchstones for Finding Hope and Healing Your Heart – Alan Wolfelt, 2009
  • When Autumn Comes, Creating Compassionate Care for the Dying – Bennett, Mary Jo, 2004
  • You are the Mother of all Mothers: A Message of Hope for the Grieving Heart – Angela Miller, 2014
  • Your Gift – Sharon Olson, 1987

Videos and /or DVD

  • Un enfant qui n’a pas pu vivre, Molenat Françoise. Les Films du Caducee, 1988
  • The Fall of Freddie the Leaf, Buscaglia, Leo, Canadian Learning Company
  • Inner Views of Grief, Canadian Learning Company
  • Letting go, Canadian Learning Company, 1993
  • Making Every Moment Count

Other Resources